Achieve your Personal Best

I call myself a recovering co-dependent, caretaking, toxic male.

With a childhood wrought with one trauma after another and not having a truly secure male role model or male attachment, I just  became me on accident with no intent; forming coping mechanisms that kept me safe and secure but also kept closeness, attachment, and connected relationship at a distance.

After failed attempts at relationships and a startling wake-up after almost losing my marriage, I learned the coping mechanisms that helped me get to where I was in life were now starting to unravel it.

I spent 16 years as an active duty Navy SEAL with 5 deployments and 21 years as a Fire Fighter Paramedic. Both arenas were prime breeding grounds for new traumatic exposures that fostered even more coping mechanisms to manage what I came to know as PTSD. The level of disconnect and dissociation from myself and from those around me continued to deepen. I found myself, angry, resentful, sad, and scared in my relationship and for my future.

With years of personal counseling with civilian and VA therapists as well as Somatic Experiencing, EMDR, and Emotionally Focused Therapy I started to heal and grow closer to the ones I love as well as myself. 

This also created a passion and purpose, a newfound need to help others that were or could end up where I was and where our relationship was. To bolster my life experience, I have completed a 9-month Relationship Mastery course and a 9-month Relationship Coach program. I have also completed a 60-hour Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy Certificate Program at the Embody Lab, a 16-hour transgenerational trauma course, and two 30-hour state courses in CISM /CISD Critical Incident Stress Management and Debriefing Training . 

After a lifetime of service to my community both as a SEAL and as a Firefighter, and years of healing and finding a new passion and purpose in life, it would be an honor and a privilege to join you in your personal journey back to yourself and the ones you love, discovering a life of both peace and love. 

My personal mission statement is "To save lives and deepen relationships, one man, one conversation at a time"

I look forward to working with you...